Kedar's Log, Stardate 2010

We hear this all the time, and each one of us thinks that life has not been fair to him/her at some point or the other. I say that in itself is not a ‘fair statement’.. Most of the times, I think our own approach to life makes it fair/unfair to us. Now all this may sound too idealistic and I hate it if ever I sound like so. So let me explain..

Have you heard the Eagles song “Get over it” (Album: Hell Freezes Over)? It is my all-time favorite for this very reason..

I too, have felt as if life has been unfair to me, on a number of occasions.. but I just make sure I don’t really start believing in it.. the problem with believing in such a thing is that you find an easy excuse for your failures. First of all, one has to forfeit the almost dreamlike and idealistic demand that everything in this world is orderly, reasonable, and fair. That’s the crux of all the confusion..

Now consider this..

• Why is it that this man is doing so much bad and still gets ‘rewarded‘ ?
• Why is it that when I try to do something, the world changes for the worse?
• Why is it that the lottery machine never aligns itself for me?
• Why is it that someone else has a smooth sailing journey through his life and for me even a simple thing becomes a nightmarish ordeal?
• Why is it that I never win anything in a lucky draw whereas these people always win an iPhone or a GPS or a million dollars?
• Why do all the lotteries in this world fall in someone else’s hands?
• Why is it that I always have to spend and spend and spend, to get something when people get things for free?
• Why is it that when I go 2 miles over the limit, I get caught, but the guy driving next to me going 20 miles over, does not?
• Why is it that so and so is always in limelight and I never get any attention?
• Why is it that he gets everything ready in life and I have to struggle to even get a sandwich?
• …..

Find something familiar here? I bet you have! Post a comment and add more to this if you feel like

I say, don’t ever ask these questions.. ‘coz there is nobody to answer these convincingly. There is nobody policing you nor is there a fair court to pass judgements about who gets rewarded and who gets punished. Nobody gets ‘rewarded’ in this world, everything you get is out of the effort / whatever it is that you put in and the timing in doing so. Add some of the magic potion called the ‘luck’ and voila..!

Nobody has answered questions like – ‘why is it that some of the biggest criminals sometimes never have to pay for their crimes’, or ‘why is it that some of the best people in the world got punished the way even the most vicious criminals didn’t or won’t’..

I don’t preach, but I just think that Life cannot be fair or unfair to you, but you can be.. so, I would rather be fair and stop passing judgements, than to dwell over such thoughts..