Kedar's Blog

Mid-life crisis is a term that some of you might already understand.. and for those who don’t, I am an example in front of you. You know, ever since I was born, I was destined to get old. So, mid-life itself wasn’t a surprise. But I didn’t know there will be crisis written all over it! For a long time, I happily lived in my 20s.. Even when I crossed over into the 30s, I was still doing okay, thinking I am still in my 20s.. Until I moved into the later half of the 30s, and now things really appeared to be moving in a direction that I did not want to go! This is like that feeling of standing on a beach.. Pretty soon the ocean starts pulling you in, along with the sand under your feet! Now with all your might, you are trying to hold your ground. It’s the same feeling.. Scientifically speaking, I don’t really think there is such a thing, disease, or medical condition as Mid-Life Crisis.. But there are some symptoms that you are bound to notice.. It hit me one day when someone took a pictur...

“I want to give my kids just enough so that they would feel that they could do anything, but not so much that they would feel like doing nothing” -Warren Buffet

 I am going to tell you 2 stories today, and I hope to make my point in the process. The first story is of the days when I could openly disclose my age to anybody – when I was in my teens I mean..! It was a fine summer night, when I faced the truth for the very first time.. There on the wall, was the test to my bravery, a test to my being a man.. My father was out of town and I was the only one to face this ultimate challenge..! Now whenever I think about it, even with my 48 inches of frame at that time, I myself must have been a challenge to my challenge on the wall. But it didn’t feel that way in my mind. ..because, what I was staring at, was a no-nonsense live 5-inch-wall lizard crawling on the wall in front of me.. The women folks (- my mother and sister) were expecting me to get rid of it.. “Do whatever the hell you gotta do, just get it out of our sights permanently!”).. Man vs animal.. I sensed that rush of adrenaline and somehow remembered the Gunfight at the O.K.Corral, Du...

“By the time a man realizes that maybe his father was right, he usually has a son who thinks he’s wrong.” –Charles Wadsworth.

Although I don’t believe such a thing exists on a scientific level, here are some symptoms I can imagine. Consider yourself in a mid-life crisis if - You are getting nostalgic about the past lately You think cutting your hair short makes you look younger You think tight T-shirts suit you better You get unusually happy when you buy from Forever-21 or American Eagle or Hollister or Abercombie. You start believing in stories of young girls dating married old men You say you don’t remember your age on your birthday You start becoming ambiguous about your age in general - you prefer to use floor() instead of round() on your age. You fight with all your liar’s might to stay below 40. ….. My friend Troy has contributed more to this list… his list follows: You just bought a motorcycle You start working out, because you think it might be your last chance to actually be fit You are more motivated to finish your projects before your mental faculties deteriorate or you get too lazy You find sites ...

One of my most favorite scenes in a movie is the animated sequence in ‘Time Machine’ where the whole world changes around the house - from this point in time to millions of years in the future. You see the house getting older, then collapsing and things just keep happening around it, wars get fought, climates change, landscapes change, new people appear, all kinds of things happen.. all at the same location. It kinda’ puts certain things in perspective in my opinion. The things we are so passionate about.. I am this, I am that, this is my house, my car, this is where I belong, this land is mine, .. is so short lived. Nobody even knows you existed at that location on earth in a few years. If one just thinks about it, all the great people in the history, walked the same earth that we are walking on now which was walked on by Dinosaurs some millions of years ago. I mean, where does that leave a single human being? This is bad! I don’t like it. With all the intelligence and arrogance in th...

I have a proud father moment to share!! It has been in the works for a long time.. I and my wife have waited and worked for this long enough to appreciate its importance.. my son’s future depended on it.. our peace of mind depended on it.. and also the overall quality of living for all of us depended on it.. This is once in a lifetime thing to start.. and it stays with you all through your life.. it is something you have gotta learn and not something you are born with..